So I have this girlfriend that I met over the internet and she and I got really close (She lives in the UK and me in Maryland) but about half way through the Skype call I started realizing that she was really possessive and I think that she is cheating on another guy with me. I don’t want to be the guy that this girl cheats on her boyfriend with. I just finished the Skype call and I realized what a giant mistake I have made. She has already made me promise that I would never breakup with her and that I would lover her forever. I am scared and I want to break things off as soon and as painlessly as possible. She seems nice but the entire long distance + possible adultery thing is really making it hard for me to enjoy this relationship. How do I get rid of this clingy girl without hurting her to bad and how do I find her possible original boyfriend and tell him the news that she tried cheating on him. With me. Or should I just create a new Skype and purge all the data that me and her shared and forget this entire thing happened. I know that it is rude but she lives in the UK and I know that these distance relationships only screw over both parties because they become unavailable with no actual relationship benefits.
Most Helpful Girl
Ok, breaking up would probably be the best move for you at this point... but actually break up with her... don't just cut off contact, that is the most chicken shit thing one person can do to another person, say it's not working or whatever, but tell her! It is more hurtful if you just disappear than if you just say hey this isn't working. That's all you need to say, and you will be a better man for it.
Also, I personally wouldn't track down her boyfriend, let them work it out. That is THEIR relationship and it's not your job to manage that.1
Most Helpful Guy
The new Skype idea sounds plausible , but I don't know about looking her BF up and stirring the pot. I agree what she is doing is wrong ( if she indeed does have a guy there ) it is the middle of the night there , just send her an off line message saying your goodbyes and don't be on the Skype page anymore. If that is a senario you can play out and be good with then go for it1