Most Helpful Guy
Move on, you have to look after yourself first.
Find someone that meets your needs, don't change your needs to suit someone who is unsure of what they want, and might always be that way.
Give him the gift of missing you, nothing gains someone's attention better than removing yourself from their life0
Most Helpful Girl
Just because two people Break up doesn't mean they can't and don't Make up and that it's Good-bye, my love forever. And with two Ex who still Mark an X in one another's hearts, there is usually motive in mind, when perhaps One of them has set ideas in their own Mind when the Other finally Says-----I'm not happy with the situation and I am often frustrated...
It's quite crystal clear here, dear, that when you both split up, your soul mate became your play mate and now it seems he has his cake and it too. With this, I mean he can come and go as he wants, spend as much time with family and friends without your permission, and in the meantime, with all those lame duck excuses of 'Wanted to get himself together...'he is taking his time and doing this in baby steps, expecting you to wait while he endures his own hopes and dreams, which I call... Not being hooked at the hip but being this free bird.
Sit him down and have a serious talk with him. Tell him something has got to give, this isn't going to fly with you. He has to either poop or get off the problem pot or you will Not be around much longer for the Friends with benefits factor, that you too have a life to lead of your own. You are not being 'Selfish,' in fact, he is the one who this is revolving all of this around, leaving you out in the cold to get... old.
You snooze, you loose, and this is what will happen if he goes to sleep sometime and... over sleeps.
Good luck. xx0