My girlfriend of a year plus just broke up with me and it really stings right now as I'm trying to take it in. She told me that her feelings for me had faded and didn't want to drag me on any more in the relationship.
I respect her for telling me how she felt about the relationship and being honest but I got confused when she asked if we could still remain friends.
In a right state of mind I'd probably take a break from all communication and let myself cool off alone but right now my heart still loves her very much. I told her that if we remained friends I'd probably be somewhat bitter towards her because it seemed so sudden but she said she hoped that we could still be friends.
I know at the end of the day she's going to go on with her life and so will I. Knowing how I handle a breakup, I'll probably just have to let go.
This question is more of a sharing to get off my chest but maybe people who experienced something similar could share how they dealt with breakups like these.
All the best guys & girls.
Most Helpful Girl
No, no, and no.
It is a highly selfish, inconsiderate, self-absorbed request for someone who dumped you to ask if you can be just a call and text away so they can still benefit from your attributes. A dumper asking you to be their friend is basically you being demoted in their life; displaced, reduced in rank and importance, and repositioned in a way that doesn't benefit you at all.
Please pick up what's ever left of your dignity and walk away.0
Most Helpful Guy
I feel you mate. Ex girlfriend told me the same thing. She wanted to be friends but just I couldn't. The first days after the break-up i was bitter to her. But that's how love and disappointment works. I didn't contact her, only after a couple of months, thing that helped me a lot. You can only be friends with her only when you don't feel her as your girlfriend anymore. And that gonna take a few months. You could keep in touch but that will only hurt you unless you are in absolute control of your emotions. And trust me. She might find what was lost one day. But for the time being i suggest you give yourself some time , not to think, to cool down and improve0