So my ex broke up with me like 2 weeks ago saying he was unhappy and our love was different and this whole not right now but maybe in th further it will work... He doesn't wanna have to spend time with me everyday and all this stuff. So like I was hurt, but I let it be and then like I didn't really speak to him and then we spoke a little and he said he doesn't know if he is done with me he isn't sure cause I was like do u wanna spilt our stuff up like bills and stuff we own? And he was like I don't know. And said well if we don't plan to be together then we should and he was like I don't know. So I was like fine I will give him some space and time. I see him like a week later on a Thursday and we took the dogs to the park and he came over and we hung it was nice I was like this is good it's not weird. This is how we should be and then he kissed and tried to go further I shut it down. We then had a really good talk and he said he wasn't sure if he wanted to move on. And like it was positive and then he ignored me and I saw him the other day and he was like I haven't spoken to u cause u have frustrated with blowing up my phone and I was like I did not. I sent u a message about what I wanted to say when I left cause u said we would talk when I dropped one of the dogs back to u n u didn't show up. So I sent u a message and put myself out there n u like never acknowledged my feelings. I was like so like then u would ignore me all together n I felt like my message hurt u or because I shot u down u were mad at what happened and like it was negative that day. He was like I don't know what I want if I wanna be done or not... And I was like r u talking to other girls he was like I am not looking for something like pursuing it but like if it happens then like it does but I am not trying... And I was like well then if u wanna move on then tell me and let me go... He said I don't know. So like I asked to separate our stuff today and like nothing back from him at all. He can be on fb message other people thou...
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First of all, there are a couple of things you said he said that make me furious on the inside:
°Maybe in the future it will work
°He doesn't know if he is done
The reason why these things make me furious is because an ex-boyfriend of mine did the same to me. For a whole year he kept telling me these things, and I realise I was an idiot too because I let him. The thing is that a guy who wants to be with you, knows that he wants to be with you. A guy that wants to be with you, MAKES it work and doesn't tell you that maybe at some distant point in the future he will show interest in you again. I have zero respect for guys (and girls) who string others along like this. It's cruel, it's unfair, it's disrespectful. They're basically prohibiting the other person from moving on, they do this for selfish reasons, so that they can go back whenever they want because after all, they always left that door open.
The fact he's so reluctant to split the bills and your belongings also speaks for the fact that he wants to keep this door open. He's a coward. He wants out, but not completely. He needs a backup plan. He wants his cake and eat it too. Now as someone who has suffered for a whole year because of an indecisive, selfish guy (in the end he found someone else and cut me off completely, from one day to the next), I urge you to insist on splitting up everything and then get him out of your life. You deserve to be with someone who wants you, who makes it work, and who doesn't give you hope in small doses, kisses you, but then retreats back into his shell and tells you you can't have him yet, but maybe one day you can.0