Most Helpful Girl
First of all, there are a couple of things you said he said that make me furious on the inside:
°Maybe in the future it will work
°He doesn't know if he is done
The reason why these things make me furious is because an ex-boyfriend of mine did the same to me. For a whole year he kept telling me these things, and I realise I was an idiot too because I let him. The thing is that a guy who wants to be with you, knows that he wants to be with you. A guy that wants to be with you, MAKES it work and doesn't tell you that maybe at some distant point in the future he will show interest in you again. I have zero respect for guys (and girls) who string others along like this. It's cruel, it's unfair, it's disrespectful. They're basically prohibiting the other person from moving on, they do this for selfish reasons, so that they can go back whenever they want because after all, they always left that door open.
The fact he's so reluctant to split the bills and your belongings also speaks for the fact that he wants to keep this door open. He's a coward. He wants out, but not completely. He needs a backup plan. He wants his cake and eat it too. Now as someone who has suffered for a whole year because of an indecisive, selfish guy (in the end he found someone else and cut me off completely, from one day to the next), I urge you to insist on splitting up everything and then get him out of your life. You deserve to be with someone who wants you, who makes it work, and who doesn't give you hope in small doses, kisses you, but then retreats back into his shell and tells you you can't have him yet, but maybe one day you can.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE