My question- I've been very tolerant of her behavior and haven't said much to rob. He wants to move in together and talks years into our future. But it's gotten to the point that I want his wife out of my life. He cares about her health and wellbeing, but there's a limit to generosity... Especially when all she does is put him down and manipulate him. How can I talk to him about this? It's starting to affect our relationship and his wellbeing. She obviously needs professional help. Any suggestions? I wouldn't normally stick around with this much "baggage," but we have a great connection and it hurts me to see him suffer because of her constant belittling.
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You are well within your right to tell him to nip it with his ex. She's manipulating him so he'll keep on enabling her to be a pathetic loser leech. I'm sure he means well, but while he's catering to her, he's ignoring your feelings.
It's one thing to be compassionate, but it's another to just blatantly enable someone and allow them to remain a cancer on your existing relationship.
No, you tell him he needs to think about whats more important. He can encourage her to get help, but he needs to legally divorce her and get her permanently out of YOUR lives.