My ex and I haven't talked to each other in exactly one month after our breakup. I'm really saddened by this since he is the one who technically split us apart. He said he needed closeness and because we would be long distance for 3 months he couldn't get that closeness he wanted. He cheated on me. Ignored me. And halfass apologized about things when I got upset. Then he used a bunch of other cliche lines for breakups that I think he believes I wanted to hear. But he refuses to admit he lost interest because he never wants to be seen as a bad guy. I don't want him back but I at least want him to beg my forgiveness and try to rehash things the way I've had to do multiple times in the past for us to work. He can offer me nothing at this point because I'm fighting depression by myself now, but I dont want a new relationship. I'm upset that I feel like I lost on my investment.
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You're hurting, and it really really sucks that you went through that. I'm sorry. He sounds like a real asshole.
However, there isn't much you can do to really get back at him, or to even the score that is. He has broken it off and he hurt you. Humans have a tendency to never blame themselves when they mess up, and find a reason for the mistake so they don't feel bad. That is what your boyfriend has done, and unfortunately it's probably making the situation worse for you as you want a real apology. Unfortunately, unless you somehow make him realize his fault, which probably won't happen, you won't get that apology.
This is where you have to help yourself now. You're on a boat without a paddle and your boyfriend left you there. You can either lay there and let yourself weep and stay trapped out there, or you can use your hands and begin the very difficult process of paddling back to shore, to your life. Revenge while only bring you out further into the sea.
It's going to be tough, and I can imagine you're depressed by the whole situation, but you have to push him aside. He's no longer in your life, you're now the only one in control of it. You need to take charge and help yourself get better. You can't have your feelings linger on what someone else has done to you. You have to push forward, and push him out of your mind.1