I met this guy through a friend and we really hit it off. We only talked online because he was busy and hung out twice. We talked for two months and discussed having feelings for each other. He ended it with me because he felt like I wouldn't sleep with him anytime soon and he thought he would resent me. His ex used to not have sex with him. I had panic attacks after and was trying to explain to him what was going on with me. He ignored me because he thought I was mad. I asked our mutual friend to talk to him and she refused. They both ignored me for months and yet kept talking to each other. My friend complained about being in a sexless relationship with her bf. She had never complained about that to me. 3 months later he tells me that he likes my friend. They both tell me I have no reason to be mad. This woman was my friend of 14 years. she made fun of me for being depressed. She told the guy I ended the friendship because I told her it was either me or him. It's a lie because I tried talking to her after about being sick and she told me she wanted nothing to do with me. They both ignore me and say I can't be trusted. I know nothing is black and white but do I sound like the bad person here? I don't get why they treat me like I'm such a bitch.
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Why should you feel bad. First of all, fuck your "friend" for making fun of your depression. Depression is very serious and I know first hand how debilitating it can be.
As far as the guy you were interested in, being around someone for the first time and not being ready for sex is VASTLY different than having been in a long term relationship where there's no sex at all. His logic is flawed and he's being a jackass that should just go get a nut with someone who doesn't give a shit.
I'd count your blessings you're not with either of those people and stop beating yourself up. Keep healthy boundaries and set the rules of what YOU are willing to accept and not accept. If you're not ready for sex with someone, then they can accept that or move on. Simple as that. You're worth more than being manipulated by some asshole.1
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