The guy I love broke off our 3+ year friendship, claiming that he was "getting in the way" of me finding someone (I think he loves me but thinks he can't be with me - God knows - he sent a text to a friend joking that "it's not like I had a chance with her anyway", for instance).
some people have suggested that by completely cutting me off (as opposed to still talking) he was trying to help me to be happy with someone else - and I was thinking, letting someone go is a big deal, yes? I'm also wondering how much pain something like that has caused people. At one point he mentioned that if we ever couldn't hang out he thought he would be "unable to do almost anything for like a week" - and he refuses to tell anyone what made him end our friendship other than reasons that make sense but he had ignored before or went against.
Any ideas as to what he might be thinking or feeling? I'm having trouble processing this.
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If he's in love with you, what about you? Are you in love with him? Do you think he really doesn't stand a chance? Do you wanna date him?
Ask yourself first, and then you can approach him with the right mindset, i. e. as just friends, or as a possible partner.
I read your other question. It seems kinda obvious that he's dropping you all sorts of hints but you're just not taking it. Some of the things I can imagine platonic friends saying, but some of them just look like obvious hints. What do you want out of him? If you continue to play dumb, then obviously he's gonna cut himself off. If you really don't see him as a suitable partner or can't connect emotionally, then just let him know or start dating someone. By the looks of it, neither of have dated anyone in 3 years or what? Once you sort what you want out of him, approach him and talk to him about it. Openly. If he thinks he's been trying all this time with no fruit, tell him that you see him as a friend. If you want to be with him, then tell him that. Seems like you guys are supporting each other well, so it's not like you need a 'right time where everything is good and stable' to be together.1
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