I was over at my girlfriends and went through her phone (I know it was wrong). She messaged one friend and said she wanted to dump me. Messaged another friend and was trash talking saying I was "shit" at a certain thing.
I don't feel as if she is giving me the respect I deserve. I tried to leave last night but she didn't want me to go. I'm confused at the moment but I am now thinking of breaking up with her myself. Advice please?
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Never ever date a woman that talks shit about you behind your back.
If she's not mature enough to resolve issues like an adult by talking to you face to face, she's definitely not mature enough to be in a relationship.
You can vent to your friends and say something so-and-so did upset you, but when the conversation goes towards trash talking like that and pondering breakup, that's your cue to tell her to go fuck herself.
If she talks shit about you to her friends, think of what private things she reveals on a regular basis and paints you in what light to everyone she knows. If you do ANYTHING she doesn't like, you'll have a crapton of people demonizing you for every breath you take, even if in reality she's at fault for the arguments/disagreements.
She's giving her circle of friends reason to hate and attack you should things don't go her way. You will never have a good relationship with such a woman, because she likes to stir shit and have backup at the ready.
Yes, going through her phone was uncool, but her saying to her friends she wants to dump you is just fucking shitty. Then saying she was "venting"? Bullshit. If you're angry at a person, you vent in the form of complaining about what they did or said, not saying they're shit and contemplating breakup.
I sure as hell don't tell my friends I wanna dump my boyfriend over dirty dishes or something else that annoyed me.
She sounds dramatic and too much of a hassle. Dump her ass and find someone more stable and less gossip hungry.0