Started seeing someone online. We've been on several dates but I'm not getting good vibes from this guy.
He was late for the last date, he checks his online profile daily, told me he likes getting drunk and its weird I've never been drunk, never texts first (I always need to initiate it) and is not interested in pursing any type of degree (he's settling for retail work).
I've always been a "good girl". I've never been wasted... The career I am going into is very strict with alcohol/DUI. I could probably be spending time studying than doing the types of things he does for fun.
Am I wasting my time? How do I tell him I'm not interested?
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Sounds like you are overanalyzing.
Just because he enjoys doing those things for fun doesn't mean you automatically have to tag along and compromise your beliefs to join him.
Personally, I think it's silly to be dismissive of a guy for that reason unless you're getting legitimate alcoholic vibes or even just 'don't know how to have a good time/create a good time for others without alcohol' vibes. To be honest, he kinda sounds like his life is going nowhere and that's reason to cut it short now. You clearly have ambitions and he doesn't sooo yeahhh. He's gotta go. You could be nice and say that you've realized you really jest want to focus on yourself or just ignore him and never talk to him again.1