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I'm not friends with any of my ex-boyfriends, and that's not due to a lack of trying. There is one who is my "friend" on Facebook but we never talk or comment on each other's things. Mind you, it's been 20 years since we broke up. All the other ones, I initially tried to be friends with but it just does not work. The only thing that should follow a break-up is cutting the person who was once your partner out of your life. As nice as it sounds to remain friends with an ex and be lovers one day and best friends the next, life doesn't work like that. Whenever a relationship ends there's hurt feelings, disappointment, maybe even accusations. More often than not, one person still wants the relationship. None of these things are good for building a friendship, on the contrary, they are detrimental.
I'm not saying you can never ever be friends with an ex. It is possible. But only after a very lengthy time of no contact, so that both parties have time to truly move on. I find that once that has happened, I rarely have any interest in keeping in touch with an ex. So yes, as much as I always want to be friends and keep the person in my life in some way after a break-up, I rationally know that that is not what is going to happen.