Sorry in advance for the essay! I really can't condense this much more.
I went on a few dates with a guy fom uni and they went fine. Then at the end of the 3rd date he said something about your first rejection being the worst, which I didn't realize was a rejection at the time (because he wasn't my first). So I kept talking to him but he gradually started being a bit more disrespectful towards me, like he'd imply I was stupid or 'accidentially' grope me (please don't call me a feminist, I'm not, I'd already told him I wanted to take things slow and I wasn't comfortable with that yet) then tell me I didn't know what a relationship was supposed to be like.
Then the last time I saw him (which was a couple of weeks ago) he told me he he was going to be really busy and wouldn't be able to see me much. About a week ago, I realized what he meant when he said your first rejection was doing to be really hard so I got a bit annoyed and messaged him on fb but he didn't admit that that was a rejection or that he was leading me on, which just frustrated me even more.
I'm 100% sure that it was because up until the 3rd date he was nice and respectful towards me. I just feel like I at least deserve an explanation about why he was acting like that so I can have some closure. I know this probably sounds extremly desperiate lol, but it's just really want some
Most Helpful Guy
Yes, you can move on. I've almost made a lifetime career of it.
The wife of 6 years didn't even give a reason for divorcing me. She said she would one day, but that was decades ago.
They don't need a reason and will rarely have one. I did get a reason one time.0
Most Helpful Girl
What do you think hearing an explanation that might explain why he was acting a certain way will bring you? In your opinion, would it be very probably that whatever reason he had, if he did have one, would justify disrespectful treatment of you?
I used to feel the exact same way following who my last relationship ended. Had a thing for years, officially together for just a few months after drifting for a bit. I ended up losing my virginity to him, only to be cheated on not much more than a week later. I was close friends with all of his friends, and had been for several years, only making the whole situation much more difficult. For months, eventually a year, I was a wreck. Wondering what I did wrong to bring that on myself, and wishing at the very least he'd own up to being an ass, explain himself. A year and a half later after going completely NC, I got a FB message from him apologizing, saying he knew what he did was terrible, he was extremely sorry and wished I could forgive him.
The point is, that made me feel not in the slightest any better. I was just as hurt as before. 'Closure' didn't erase the past, or change anything in the situation.0