Breaking up is honestly the worse thing, i really don't know what to do. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 8 months everythings perfect. I didn't tell my parents that we were going out until yesterday because i was scared of their reaction as my boyfriend isn't the same ethnicity as me. I truly love him so much and he loves me back equally, however my parents don't accept him as he isn't my ethnity. My parents are quite old minded they want me to be with someone as the same ethnicity as me. They told me to break up with him as much as it hurts me to do so, i'm gonna have to respect their decision. I've already had a talk with my boyfriend about the consequences if i do tell my parents that they won't be happy and that if they tell me to break up with him i'm going to have to respect that but i'd try my hardest to convience them. I can't bear to tell him face to face or over the phone. I want to text him instead but I don't know what I should say or how I should break up with him. What's the kindest way of telling him about the break up, I don't to loose him completely his my best friend i would always love him. I want him to know i appreciate all the time we've been together.
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You'll have to do it face-to-face. He deserves at least that, since he's basically getting dumped for no real reason. It's not like he did anything wrong, and as you said, everything's going perfectly.
If you really love him, though, you shouldn't listen to your parents. They're not dating him, YOU are. I'm sure their opinion means a lot to you, but if you break up with him just because they tell you to, you're letting them make a decision for you that isn't in your best interests. You'll both be unhappy without each other, you'll likely end up resenting your parents, and you'll feel incredibly guilty for breaking up with him and leaving him to wonder if he did something wrong. It's a lose-lose-lose situation.
What you should do is sit your parents down and explain a few things to them. Tell them that your boyfriend is a good, caring person and that he would never intentionally hurt you. Give them examples of how happy he makes you. Let them know that you value their opinion and would never want to disappoint them, but that being with him makes you truly happy and he encourages you to do well in school and to become a better person (or something similar that you genuinely believe). This isn't a high school relationship with an older bad boy or something; he just has different beliefs than you and your family. It's nothing to break up over.4THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE