Most Helpful Guy
I have contacted one who told me she didn't want to talk with me anymore, but I gave it a few months. I didn't say anything about missing her, but instead just told her I was saying hello and hoped she was doing well.
In hindsight, I'm not sure that was a good idea, because I never heard from her, and shouldn't have expected to since she was pretty adamant about not wanting to be contacted by me.
It's a pretty big serving of humble pie, but now, when someone says don't do something, I'll respect it regardless of how tempted I am not to.
Most Helpful Girl
No ex has ever told me not to contact them.