I'm really here to just vent. Any advice is welcomed. Dated a guy 6 months and he just didn't seem that into me and I was falling for him. Broke up with him because we didn't communicate often (even after disscusing the problem) and on Christmas eve he was ignoring my texts and phone calls because he was at his female friends house when he was suppose to be going with me to my moms. He texted me saying if it was a misunderstanding he would forget about it and he wanted me in his life. 3 days later I Told him i wanted to work on it and he said he would think about it, so I said nevermind bye. 4 months later I feel pathetic that I still think about him everyday when I haven't heard from him since the breakup. I just found out he purchased a house and I am excited for him, but I feel like I am missing out. I'm trying to move on but we have mutual friends so they bring him up often not realizing I'm still hurting. None of our friends took our relationship seriously as I was his first girlfriend and he's really immature. I know I will EVENTUALLY find someone else. I'm not in a good state to date anyone right now, even him, if we could work things out. I need to let go and move on but for whatever reason I can't. I've noticed I do this everytime a breakup happens. I hold on to this hope when they make it clear that I'm not worth it to them. Why would I sabatoge my own happiness over someone who took me for granted? I don't believe its validation or ego. I really care about him. Mehhh advice to the crazy person?
Omg can I just get over my ex already?
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First off you're so pretty!
Second you deserve someone else who wants to include you in their lives. This one doesn't seem to. So ok we understand that what now? Get your hair done, get your nails done, get into a good book, find a hobby something that will consume you and your time. I've done this so many times already that its second nature when something doesn't work out. I wouldn't date right now since you aren't in a good place. And there is the #1 rule: the no contact rule. You dont call him, text him (that means drunk texting or mistake texts you know what im talking about), don't stalk his FB, twitter, instagram because its only going to make it harder for you to get over him.
Why is it people say "there is no closure"? when its literally staring you right in the face. Men don't need to say anything their body language and disinterest is enough. Thats closure. Your job isn't to fix him or the relationship or change something you could have done better. Your job is to take care of yourself, do not contact, and date when you are ready.1
Tell them to stop bringing his f-ing name up1
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