I don't want to seem desperate or anything, but I just want that last message to mean that I'm moving on and that I hope his life is well. Both are absolutely true. Yes, I want him back, but truthfully, I don't know why he stopped being with me. Yeah, he could have just been in asshole in disguise or there really could have been something else more serious. I'm not really holding a grudge. I don't want my message to sound negative or that I expect him to feel guilty. I've had emotional reason why I backed away from someone and I hope they don't see me in a negative light. It's really hard for me to put words together the way I want which is why I asking others' opinion. Like I said, I just want a light-hearted, closure message.
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Completely agree with @rollsroyce12345 If you want to write a letter to him, I actually don't think that's a bad idea, as it allows you to put your thoughts out you can look at and analyze. In addition, it can help you vent some hurt and/or anger by doing so. However, do not mail him or email him that letter, because like rollsroyce said, he probably won't even read it or won't interpret it as you intended.
I'm sorry you're dealing with this, but it seems clear your ex has moved on and isn't spending any time wondering about you or your feelings. It's happened to me before, and it sucks, but saying or doing anything for this guy at this point would possibly make him resent you more.
Instead, write a letter to him you do not send, and let everything you want to say out in that letter. I think it will make you feel better while keeping your dignity. If you happen to see this guy sometime down the road, then you just smile, say hi and say you're glad he's well. That's the only closure statement you would need, and that shows him you're mature and have moved on as well.
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