I feel like this should be a great situation, my best friend getting on with my boyfriend. But its actually ended up me losing my best friend of years and I don't really know what to do about it :( there's nothing funny going on either, he's like the male equivalent of a best gal pal lol without being feminine or gay, I'm just trying to say our friendship was great and we would always spend time together socially. I've tried to just let it go but I can't that easily, I feel gutted.
Most Helpful Guy
The issue is the "what if" scenario. He might be like a brother to you, best "gal pal" or something but you can never know if he truly developped an attachement or that the boyfriend is 100% comfortable.
Emotions can develop very easily and maybe Tom is trying to avoid that by keeping you happy with your boyfriend. Clearly it isn't working and your happiness is having both, the good boyfriend and friends and spending quality time with Tom doing the things you do.
I recommend to simply either 1) move on understanding that your life has changed with your new people in your life (bf/friends) or 2) try and encourage close activites you guys used to do together: movies, dinner, road trips or w/e
If neither work maybe try and talk to him more over fb, phone, texting just to keep your conversations going and not losing the friendship incase you want to go back to him if the boyfriend relationship doesn't work out0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
so.. your boyfriend is gay?0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE