I'm still in love with my ex. I didn't realize just how much until he got a new girlfriend. I'm so jealous that I can barely ask him about her and how their relationship is going. Neither one of us really broke up with the other, we just sort of took a break (my decision) and he moved on.
Yesterday he told me I couldn't get gushy with him anymore or say cute things, and I lied and told him it doesn't mean anything anyway, that I love him as a friend and am not romantically interested in him at all.
Does this make me a bad person, for being so desperate to keep him in my life? Why doesn't he like me saying those gushy things (I miss you etc)?
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You decided to "take a break" because you had problems and the relationship wasn't giving you pleasure. After a break up, it is vey common for people, especially younger people, to want to maintain a connection so that, when something magically changes, you will both be there ready to resume.
Nothing ever magically changes. You are the same person you were before and he is the same person he was before. The attraction that you two felt wasn't strong enough to make your relationship work before and, if you do get back together, the odds are astronomically high that you will rediscover that ugly truth: you really aren't meant for each other.
This is normal behavior and it does not make you a bad person. For your own benefit, you need to accept the fact that this relationship is over, learn your lessons, and now you are better prepared for the next relationship. This process will continue until you meet THE ONE but every break up will not hurt as badly as this one does.1