I know guys are more driven by physical things than emotional things and it can get them in trouble. I just found out that my boyfriend of three years has been flirting and chatting girls up in person and through texts after saying he had no interest in them and to make it worst he exchanged sexually explicit messages about their "assets" to his friends saying if he was single he would "pounce" amongst some other things which makes me think a large part of him is better off single.
He`s been very good to me and we don`t fight or anything but he was a player in his past and I`m worried it`s carried onto our future. He wants to work on things and practice some transparency but my anxiety has made me an emotional wreck since I found out all the thoughts I had were more than just thoughts.
Should I try to give him another chance or does it sound unhealthy/not worth it?
Most Helpful Guy
Do you like being an emotional wreck
Do you like a guy who has little respect for you and your relationship
If yes, then take him back.1
Most Helpful Girl
To each their own, but if I were in your shoes, I wouldn't give him another chance. In the end, it all boils down to respect and the way he's been acting - that's not being good or fair to you. If he really respected you, he wouldn't have acted the way he did, or at least broken up with you first and then done whatever the hell he wanted to do. And if he doesn't respect you then what is he doing next to you in the first place
I understand that it might be hard for him to give up his player ways, but it's not fair to you for him to be stringing you along. Don't be in a relationship just cause he's good to you. Obviously, if this has made you an emotional wreck (as you've put it), then it's not worth it. Don't stay in a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship. Good Luck! :)2