I mean she acted like everything was fine then blow up. I wanted to so badly get on that compassionate level but she never made. me feel comftorable enough to do it. It's really hard for me to open up. The way I was raised and just my enviroment. Military law enforcment. I'm really bad at showing that stuff. I was going through really tough training averaging 4 hrs of sleep a night. Was also watching my dad fight for his life surgery after surgery when he was diagnosed with cancer. When I got free time I would go out with the guys. she acted like it didn't even matter to her. then would blow up. It was really confusing. We had plans to move out.. she left me. Her friends and family were all saying I was just using her and she was too stupid to see it.
When she would blow up I guess I disregarded her feelings. I told her she was being irrational when she would finally blow up. Even though I did the same things tk her before. I didn't even talk to her for a week (we are long distance) then she blew upz saying I'm ignoring her. She apparently msgd me bit I never got it.
All we would do is just have sex at my house then talk for a little. I got her some gifts and offered to go out on her bday but it was already too late I guess. I would blow up on her and get moody apparently. I love this girl so much I planned to eventually marry her but I told her the opposite I said I'm not trying to do that right now I'm just taking it one step at a time.
I wrote her a long letter and dropped it off with roses and she wrote back saying maybe we can try this again later on. I've been an asshole no doubt but more of a clueless asshole rather than intentional. Anyways I'm a grown ass man and I feel like I'm just in a constant daze.. been 3 months now.
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You made a lot of detrimental mistakes and yes, you weren't a great boyfriend. However, I understand your reasoning behind it. However you were painfully neglectful and distant, which is a common issue in relationships. Without communication and closeness, things fall apart quickly. I also see where people got the misconception of you "using her" as you mentioned all you did was have sex and talk. That is easily interpreted as "benefits only" situation.
If she is willing to see you again, I would recommend taking time to work out where you believe you went wrong. Perhaps consider some sort of counselling to help you open up. I'm not a psychiatrist so I unfortunately couldn't give you reliable tips on how to do that, so that is my only suggestion. From there, encourage communication and do your best to put effort forth into things from here - assuming you get back together. Be prepared for things to be difficult, it'll get harder before it gets easier.
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