We inadvertantly met online. Knew each other for a month. Fell pretty hard for each other in that time. Even though I'm almost 23, he was the first guy that I've been attracted to mentally, physically, and emotionally, and who felt the same about me. I've never experienced that mutual attraction with anyone.
Everything was great, we'd already gotten into the making-out stage of things. He said he adored me, and was head-over-heels for me, and said that my heart was safe in his hands.
And then yesterday I didn't hear from him much, and in the evening when I texted him asking if he wanted to do something with me later in the week, he told me he couldn't because he was going to have a baby next month and he was trying to make it work with her for the kid. Said he was really sorry, but he needed to pull out before it got too serious. I guess he had only just found out.
I was (and still am) completely crushed. I feel depressed and hopeless, like I don't know how I'm going to find someone else that I'm this compatable with. I know that sounds stupid, but I've been wanting this for a long time, and it's been so hard waiting. I thought I'd found it - in fact, I had it! And then it was ripped away from me. I've never gotten attention in person, never been asked out or approached. I've tried with guys, but I guess I say the wrong thing, or make a dumb joke, and they just kind of gloss over me. I haven't been able to eat since he told me, and I'm crying all the time. The sadness comes in sudden waves from the pit of my stomach.. I want to find this with someone else so badly, and I want my heart to stop hurting, but I don't know how to accomplish these things. This is a new feeling for me.
Can anyone offer some suggestions or advice?
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Gad, at least YOU aren't pregnant by him! It sounds as if he knew about the baby a while ago, actually, and was dumping his pregnant girlfriend for you.
Since this was your first time, you didn't question anything he told you, you didn't pick up on warning signs. That's ok, the first time.
But analyze what you missed seeing in him, so you won't fall into the trap again. If you start analyzing, the sadness will quickly disappear.1