Me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 3 months. Recently she admitted to cheating on me. The backstory is that We have not had sex because I told her I was a virgin and I need time to make sure I'm ready. She has had a lot of sexual experience and has usually has had sex by now. She told me she does not care because I have treated her better then any other guy ever did before so she did not mind waiting because she loves me. Yesterday she said she had something to tell me. She said that when she went out with her girlfriends she got drunk and ended up waking up to another guy after having sex with him. She said that this happened a week ago and she has felt horrible ever since. She said that she is so sorry that this happened because I deserve more respect and loyalty then she gave me. She said she would understand if I never want to see her again. She admitted totally honestly to me, no one else knows about it. I told her I need some time. Should I forgive her I really like this girl.
- Forgive her.Vote A
- Don't forgive her.Vote B
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It depends. Really, you need to listen to your brain. Do you think she will do it again? Is she worth it? Just to let you know, I have been cheated on... and it took FOREVER to get over it and have a normal relationship. The past still gets in the way--but it gets better over time. Is she worth all of that? It will be hard... trust me on that.
-She told you on her own... this is a good thing. It means she genuinely does feel terrible about it.. so terrible that maybe she won't do it again. (If you go back to her, I would make it clear that you only do one chance).
-Then again, maybe she knew you were going to find out? And, she thought it best to come clean? Is that possible?
-She said she loved you... she doesn't know the meaning of love if she is sleeping with someone else. I would tell her that.
If you do think she is worth the agony of trying to make it work, I would at least tell her you need to think for a while to show her this is serious. Then, go back with her. But, make her sweat. She needs to know this isn't okay.0