So its been 2 months since my ex girlfriend for a year and a half dumped me. I went no contact for a few weeks which she got extremely pissed at leaving crazy voivemails, which I ignored. Eventaully I called her back and we started talking just a little. I would ignore her sometimes because I didn't feel like talking and she would just get even more angry and say you said you would talk to me... but I honestly just wanted to talk under my conditions and when i felt I was ready. So while talking later on we agreed to meet up somewhere for a quick coffee or something. She wanted to talk to try to be on good terms and stay very good friends (I was one of her best friends), but I dont know if I could do that because I still love her. She just wanted to to go out and have fun without a boy friend. She told me she still loves me, just not in a romantic way. Anyways both of our meet ups I couldnt go to, I had to help out a friend and the next I was feeling terrbile. Then we got into an agrugment over the phone because I told her I didn't want to hear about her prom plans which she was trying to tell me which I was supposed to be going to, and now she's going with her best friends boyfriend which I think is weird. I felt like she was essentially rubbing it in. So I told her I dont want to hear about it, then she hung up. She sent me a text later saying she doesn't want to meet up anymore cuz I keep bailing on her, and to have a nice life. I've been thinking about this for the past week non-stop. Its weird because after all she's said I still want to meet with her. My friend said I should send a simple message saying "hey if you still want to meet up i'd be up for it, let me know". Do you think this is a good idea?
The situation changed after a few messages I received in a row. She just needed someone to talk to, someone in her family died. Which is why I don't know about asking for a date. I would like to see her again but don't have anything to gain. She only wants friends, and I don't know if I could do that considering I still look at her as more than just a friend. Should I just talk on the phone if she calls me?
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No DON'T, because you'll give her all the control.
If she has contacted you first once, she'll contact you again - present actions state future tendencies.
What you need to do now is go back to no contact and stay there till she contacts you again.
When she does THEN you can ask her out.
I'm quite sure if you send her the text right now, she'll either not respond or tell you she doesn't want to.
Her being angry and picking fights means she still cares - no doubt...
I'll give it a 60 to 70 % chance she'll contact you again.
Please... do NOT send her the text.
Keep me up to date, and let me know how it goes!0