It's extremely hard because what he did psycologically messed me up - so I immediately miss him, feel weak, and want to give him a chance, even thought i know i never can again. I want him to be happy but he doesn't seem to move on and it's hard for me. I'm worried he will hurt himself or show up at my work/in my life if I ignore him - Should I email back? Should I call him one time like he's begging me to to tell him directly that I'm moving on and good luck? I want HIM to be able to move on, becuase until he does, I'll always be brought back into a weak/dark place because of him. Im finally in a healthy relationship and a healthy place and I want it to stay that way.
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Helpha, it sounds as though he is using emotional manipulation as a means of grinding you down, for e. g He can't live with out you, yet he has done so for 5 months, so that is clearly not the case, he maybe miserable, regretting his behaviour that caused you to move away from the relationship, but showing no signs of change, me, me, me, I hurt, I miss you, I want etc... He's caught wind that you've met someone new & is probably jealous, He sounds like a narcissist, which is essentially a self centred ticking time bomb & the core personality traits of an abuser, he has psychological abuse tendencies by the sounds of it, he's not actually listening to your opinions, just hell bent on you accepting his, which you don't have too. Ultimately, you're gut instinct has told you to run far away from this man, for good reason! He will eventually latch himself onto another woman & no doubt repeat the same. I was with an abuser for 17 years, they do not change, no matter what you try to make them happy. Create a new e-mail account if need be and inform the police if he carries on, he is not your responsibility. If he was going to hurt himself, he would have done so by now. So just forget about him & enjoy the new relationship you're in. x