My boyfriend and I had been together 7 months. He broke up with me Friday due to arguments while we were under the influence (mainly me getting quite nasty with my words), it's an issue I have and need to work on. I was distraught and begged him and begged him to just meet to talk, he agreed to come over last night. He came over, we talked but didn't really sort much out, we agreed we would have a break until after my holidays as I am away for 3 weeks on Monday, we had sex... then of course I started to cry. He asked why I was crying, I told him because I would miss him. I told him I love you, he said I know when he usually would always say it back and had said it in text that day. He was just being so cold, no cuddles, no empathy, just cold like he didn't care. Then he just got up and said I'm leaving, I asked him not to go, he just turned looked at me with dead eyes and said No I'm leaving. This was at 3 am. I cried and cried and cried, like I haven't cried before. He text me a sharp text turning it all round on me and saying he does love me and care for me but he hopes I'm nicer to my next boyfriend.
I haven't heard from him since, I have deleted his number to stop myself texting or calling him. The thing is, this morning I thought I was literally going to die, my heart was breaking but I just feel so used, it kind of made me see him in a different light where I realized I didn't like him. Now I just feel calm and at peace, yeah sometimes my stomach dips a little and I haven't got much of an appetite but I feel strangely fine. Content. Passed the begging stage, past the hoping he texts stage. It's like I just don't care. Is this normal after only 3 days?
I'm 22, he's 29
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This may sound a little morbid but a proper breakup in my opinion is a bit like going through the loss of a loved one, you go through the five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. I think a common misconception is you do all these in a chronological order but in truth i feel like you move back and forth between them until they finally fizzle down and you move on. As you feel now maybe its a bit of denial You don't believe you ever loved him and you feel like your fine. But you know what sweets thats fine. You'll probs go through these roller coaster of emotions for the next few weeks/months and don't worry about it. At some point you will meet another guy and this will put things into perspective. Good luck and if you ever need a listening ear Justabitstuck x0