The whole story is my ex and i dated for two year and a half. I always hinted and probably pestered him to get engaged even though he told me many times he wasn't ready. We did talk about houses and starting a family. We been broke up for about 8 months now but we always hung occasionally even saw each other on holidays like new years eve and Valentine's day. Every time we hang out it feels like we're still in a relationship because our actions towards each other are the same as when we were together. When we hang out we kiss, cuddle, hold hand, have in depth conversasion about family and work. Sometimes he will compliment me or tell me he misses me (I have to ask but). He will do sweet things for me such as one night he covered me when i was cold and one day he made me a lunch for work. Recently i asked he how he would feel if we got backk toghter and he replied i dont want to get back together yet. Does the yet means he wants to get back together in the future or what?
Most Helpful Guy
I'd say time revels everything. it could take him 1-2 years to realize that you are "the one for him".. People all have different mindsets your looking to lock him down right now.. perhaps he wants to wait it out a bit... This is where patience comes in to play.. Not many people have patience in these situations. If your willing to wait around for him to figure his stuff out then that's your life. If you want to look around and explore different pastures that's your life as well. From my life experience you can't force peoples hands.. you can't force him to commit, or to love you, or to marry you ultimately it will be his decision if or when he feels ready.. I think perhaps with a little bit of time and space he may come around to re-connect but I can't guarantee marriage and baby carriage you know? .. hope that helps0
Most Helpful Girl
i think he don't know what he wants, and his feeling is all over the place.
you right now is his safety net. when two people broke up there is this feeling still there and as long as the other person is providing that haven to that other person that's how it will be.
i think you should stop be his haven that way he will decide what he wants, as long as you are with him still doing the things you guys were doing while you in a relationship it will be hard for him to say what he wants when he already get you as a haven, so there won't be no need to say if he wants to get back with you or not.
you understand what i am saying to you.1
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