My girlfriend and I had been dating for 2 years, (all long distance). We visited each other one last time before we were going to move in together this summer. This trip made me realize that I was not going to be happy with her though. She was overlly jealous, said "she wanted to move in with me to keep other girls away", and she didn't want me meeting other people in college (even guys). I was staying with her to make her happy and not me. I noticed I changed who I was for her, to make her happy, and she wasn't right for me. I couldn't be myself and she didn't want anyone else to be involved in our lives besides us.
I felt bad about breaking up after 2 years but she reacted by telling all her friends/family I cheated on her. (I never did anything to make her think this and was always faithful)
So, did I do the right thing by breaking it off before we moved in together in the summer? She called me a coward for "not fighting for our relationship", so I need honest opinions.
- Yes.Vote A
- No.Vote B
- Other (Explain)Vote C
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If you genuinely weren't happy then yes, you did do the right thing. But I do see her point about fighting for the relationship... However if you didn't love her then that clearly wasn't going to happen. Long distance puts a lot of strain on one's relationship and I think she did love you, and her trying to cut off your social life was a reaction to not being able to see you or know what's going on in your life. As for the lie she told at the end... She obviously felt hurt and it really is hard to accept that someone has fallen out of love with you. By saying you've cheated it means that she will get more sympathy from her family and friends and more comfort during a hurtful situation. Also, despite you saying you were a loyal guy all the long distance combined with "not fighting" for her would lead to insecurities. But again. I cannot stress enough that you definitely did the right thing leaving a relationship that was no longer fun for you because you should never feel trapped with your girlfriend.1