My boyfriend of 6 months broke up with me almost 2 months ago after a fight. He was a poor communicator (couldn't even text me good morning or let me know what he was doing for the day). We got in a fight, which lead him to question if he wanted to be with me and then 5 minutes later he snapped and said he was done. I apologized for the fight and he didn't respond. Prior to this things were going well and we discussed moving in together. He said he wanted to be with me forever etc.
I figured Id give him space but it's been over 30 days now and I still haven't heard from him. I saw him on Tinder recently as well. I thought about reaching out to him to try to make things work or to get some sort of closure? The other part of me thinks it's his decision to reach out and that I shouldn't contact him. It's constantly on my mind.
Most Helpful Guy
Sounds a lot like me.
I've reacted angrily to quite small things but also embarrassing things and it they have all lead me to say things I don't mean. I had a hard time in my childhood - still am - and I get angry quite quickly.
He might be waiting for you to text him, have you thought about that? Have you tried sending him a nice text (without mentioning the fight) since the break up?
Sending him a nice, casual and friendly text could gauge his emotions.0
Most Helpful Girl
I wouldn't reach out. It sounds like he's confused in general of what he wants- saying he wants to be with you forever then snapping. If he isn't willing to talk and it's been a considerable amount of time (1 month is pretty long) then I would let it go. Communication is big in a relationship and it doesn't sound like he had those necessary skills to begin with, the closure you may be seeking may not happen as he may not know how to express himself. And he may not know how to properly understand what you are asking or telling him.0