So my new girlfriend about 2 months was still flirting with some guy recently right after we started dating. Him sending her picsof his junk in his boxers. Fast forward a week or two, we were on vacation weekend together and I saw some texts on her phone of her talking bad about me to him saying I was jealous and probably saw her texting him. He was also asking her about what sexual stuff we had done.. I was livid as hell and ready to leave her ass then.. i confronted her and laid it to her ass she promised never to happen again and he won't be an issue. I told her I never wanted her talking to him again and she seemed genuinely upset that the whole situation had taken place. She said he was just a dick and thought bringing me up more would make him go away. She also told me if she had anything to hide she would leave her phone in front of me and let me know her passcode. That made me feel a little better. Im pretty sure the guy is a ex boyfriend too but im not sure. Anyways she's been on a 3 week long vacation with her family so I haven't seen her since our talk and everything has been great in talk and text since then, we talk all day every day basically and she seems all in... However the million dollar question is if she's still communicating with this guy when i see her this weekend should I cut her off then or find out what the hell is the deal and confront her on it again?
Side note: my gut does tell me she is genuine
Most Helpful Girl
"She said he was just a dick and thought bringing me up more would make him go away"
Such a bunch of bullshit. Why would she talk badly about you? You would do the complete opposite. You would praise your boyfriend for the other one to understand that you would never leave your boyfriend.
I wouldn't even to begin with talking to a man whos sending me pictures of his junk while I'm with someone and we're exclusive.
She's not genuine. She's manipulating you when saying "if she had anything to hide she would leave her phone in front of me and let me know her passcode".1
Most Helpful Guy
Dude, why does your gut tell you she's genuine? Just curious. How long has she carried on with this guy? I mean, if it were me, I wouldn't hold my breath that she just up and walked away from an ex. Clearly, if being with you in a new relationship, wasn't a good enough reason to stop talking to him, than I doubt your words will influence her. Now, I could be wrong, and for your sake, hope I am, but if it were me, she wouldn't haven't gotten past the talking shit about me to a former lover. That for me, says all I need to know.0