My boyfriend has the worst temper. He will get angry over anything and always takes it out on me. He will either rant (using profanities) or he will direct his anger at me and start freaking out, saying to "not make that look" or bitch about how I apparently didn't do something, yet it was him that didn't do it, etc. He yells, screams, and will go on for hours. He hasn't hit me, but he will break my personal belongings if he gets angry enough and went as far as to burn old family photos because I said I was too tired to go out to dinner with him. He actually shredded a bunch of my lingerie once too because I refused to have sex with him so I "couldn't wear it for my other boyfriends" ... since apparently if I ever don't want to go on a date or have sex it means I have other boyfriends. Oh, in case it wasn't obvious, he also constantly accuses me of cheating, even though I work 12 hour shifts and come straight home. I can't have a social life because he'll get pissed and accuse me of everything under the sun from cheating to selling my body for money.
Every time I threaten to leave, he breaks down and cries. He blames it on being abused by his dad and cheated on by his shitty ex girlfriend, but then he turns around and refuses to get help because "some stranger can't tell him what's wrong." I am so beaten down... I don't know if I have the strength to continue on with him if things don't change. How do I remedy this situation? And if leaving is the only choice... how can I do so safely?
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Cutting up your panties and burning your photo album may be enough for you to get an order of protection to get him out of the apt. You need to get him on paper because he is going to kill you or try then blame it on you.
You were not very smart to move in with a guy who had a hint of a bad temper. An order means he cannot talk to you. Once issued, run as far as you can. Time everything. If he is going to go to jail or be mad plan it for a Friday night that way he will spend the weekend in jail.1