So I'm going through a very stressful time in work at the moment and know I haven't been the most fun to be around for the last couple of weeks. A fight had been brewing for the last couple of days as I have been home late every night and each day coming home to him just relaxing with video games and tv and the house in a mess, with no dinner prepared and absolutely no intention to even help. Should add that he's not working at the moment. Usually we share most of the chores but for whatever reason my recent stress seems to have made him less helpful rather than the other way around.
Every night this week I have come home late, tired, hungry and cranky but still made sure we got something to eat, each time hoping he'll reciprocate the next evening. Never happened. Last night he had a couple of friends over and we had a good time for a few hours, after which they left pretty early around 10 PM. Five minutes later he turns to me and asks "what's for dinnner". I told him its his turn to think of something and he immediately calls me a bitch. Then says he wants Indian takeaway. Then asks me if I ordered yet. I said "no, did you?". Again, "bitch". I was too tired to argue so I got up and rang them. He was sighing and rolling his eyes and eventually just got up and went up to our bedroom.
After 15 mins I followed him to see what was going on, well aware that he was annoyed that I hadn't just ordered the food with a happy face straight after he asked me to. I guess part of me wanted to clear the air but at the same time I wasn't in the mood for a fight. He was just sitting on the bed staring at the wall so I asked what was wrong. He said he just wanted to get away from me. I asked why, said the food was on the way and asked if I'd done something to annoy him. He got angr
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Wow... what a piece of work this guy has turned out to be (That is, I hope was more mature at one time). I mean, he is utterly unsupportive, lazy, can't be bothered with helping out, or even picking up a freaking phone... AND he's just happy to sit and play video games though, rather than beating the pavement to find a job. Perfect. Prince Charming. This begs the question of why are you still with him, or even care about him anymore?0
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It sounds like both of you are at fault to be honest. You have been working more and the lack of sleep over time can make even the most kind person to become overly irritable. Man don't see things the same way, having a clean house usually isn't seen as important to them as it may to us. Yes house hold choirs should be divided equally but it sounds like you might not have expressed that to him. Sounds like you have been holding all your feelings inside and he probably has been walking on egg shells until he finally snapped. Both of you have been on edge clearly and this was the result of resentment on both sides. You resented him for the lack of help around the house especially with being out of work and he with you for probably constantly reminding him of being out work.1