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Sometimes we really mean what we say ... HOWEVER, if the guy seems unreasonably clingy, jealous or suspicious when we give him a legitimate answer ... it may drive us away.
Guy I was casually seeing: "Wanna come to my place Thursday?"
Me: "I have to check my work schedule, I'll get it tomorrow." (truth)
Guy: "It's not like I'm gonna attack you."
Guy (texting at 10 pm): I know this is short notice, but wanna go out tomorrow
Me (next day): Just got your text, I was already in bed...Sorry, I've got plans tonight."
Next time guy calls: Want to go to dinner this weekend? (it's wednesday)
Me: I can't make it THIS weekend, I'm out of town.
Guy: sounds hurt, says something mildly rude and never calls back
You've got to make sure you'e a) giving a busy girl enough leeway to accomodate you, or else she'll resent that she always has to drop plans around you. And you've got to handle "rejection" that might not actually be rejection.1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE