I really don't see myself getting over this anytime soon. How long does it usually take. . I hear half the time you were together. Was my first real relationship.
Most Helpful Girl
It varies from person to person, it varies with the intensity of the feelings and emotions in your relationship, and it can also depend on if you broke up with her or if she broke up with you (usually the person who breaks it up gets over it quicker). The best advice I can give you is to fill your time with things you enjoy doing and spend time with friends and family - these things make you reconnect with the people andbthings you love that bring you happiness.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
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Most Helpful Guy
The fact that SHE broke up with YOU suggests that she is already over you and the relationship itself, and had been long before the break up happened. Let me explain:
When a relationship hits a rocky spot the girl will always try her hardest to let you know what's wrong and how to fix it. More often than not men will not understand their GF's needs and the relationship will continue to break down.
When the girl starts to realise the relationship is going no where, she'll start plotting her "getaway plan". She will get a plan B, a guy she'll start talking to who she likes, she will detach herself from the intimacy and pay less attention to you and the relationship she has with you, and eventually she'll pull the plug.
Along the way of this "getaway plan", she'll be losing feelings for you and when the break up happens (at her own accord), she will have NO feelings for you whatsoever - therefore making it so much easier for her to move on.
This happens in 90% of failed relationships out there. The 10% is either when the girl is dumped herself, or the relationship hadn't run it's course and the girl still has feelings for her ex.
Back to your question about how long it usually takes... it can take years for all I know!
It all depends on how YOU deal with it. Do you sit at home doing nothing hoping for your ex to contact you? Or do you go out and about and actively forget about your ex and find other new, better people to hang with?
It all comes down to you... no one here can tell you "Oh it'll take 2 months".0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE