I'm 35 not 25... by the way.
My husband and I have been married for 12 years.
for the last 8 we have not had sex once.
this drove me to seek affection elsewhere (which I instantly regretted and came clean about)
he said some quite horrible things to me yesterday.
He said that he was seeing me and his ex at the same time (that it wasn't cheating because we had not had sex yet)
that at he has never had any butterflies or feelings for me ever.
that he only stayed with me until the kids had grown up enough and that he knew they were going to be ok
that when he bought me the engagement ring he wasn't even thinking about marrying me. He just thought he should since he was hitting thirty.
He said I'm a psycho and that he hates me for affecting his promotion (this didn't happen btw)
i ended up up losing the plot and I smashed every photo of us together. As I was picking up one of the pictures (it still had glass attached) he grabbed it off me with force that it slashed my hand.
What at I want to know is why is he being like this?
Is he having an affair?
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First of all I am terribly sorry to hear that your husband left you. I've never been married but it's never nice when a partner dumps you all of a sudden without trying to work things out. Secondly I don't blame you for seeking affection elsewhere since you weren't receiving any over an 8 year period which is incredibly long time!!! You did the right thing by coming clean about your affair as it shows that you had the courage to tell your husband why you did it. The mean things which your husband is saying about you is incredibly hurtful, disrespectful and down right out of line!!! If your husband didn't love nor have strong feelings for you then why did he agree to get married? (This is no reflection on you).
Male intuition tells me that your husband could have quite possibly been having an affair and what he's said about you is an excuse to end your marriage so he can be with someone else whom he has supposedly true feelings for. This is not a nice a situation for you to be left with children to look after on your own and if your husband had any decency then he'd come clean and tell you the real reason he ended your marriage.
I hope you find someone who truly deserves you :-)0