Usually I can figure out where a girl is coming from and if they are getting over a guy, looking for fun, looking for a relationship or if I am their first real boyfriend. The girl I am seeing now makes no sense to me at all and so I would like some insight from the girls.
Basically she has been in 2 relationships she told me, one for 2 years and one for 4. She is in her second half of her 20's and is pretty introverted, a bit distant, and at times kind if cold. Almost like she trying to chase me away.
I will easily admit that I come from a world where kissing isn't a big deal but after 2 months I can't get her to kiss me more then once every 60 seconds or so. So I thought she was just careful physically but then she will lay in my arms on the couch, push into me while I have one arm around her lower neck and when I go to wrap the other arm across her into a full relaxed hug and grab her other shoulder I accidentally grab her chest (took me about 3 seconds to realize and I apologized to which she said that was ok to leave it there).
This relationship has me as confused as if I was in High School and I haven't had that feeling in over a decade.
Is it normal to chase a guy away you like?
Is it usual for introverted girls to not want to kiss when given the opportunity?
Why would a girl think a guy would stick around if she lets him do whatever he wants (seemingly) but there is no feedback almost or reciprocation?
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I am not really good with relationships, but I am very introverted myself and I will try to help you out the best way I can. First, she is not trying to chase you away. Don't even think that. If she is really introverted, then she is most likely constantly thinking of different ways, situations and opportunities to interact with you or kiss you. But most of the time, it is likely she will not act on these opportunities unless you start it first. Most introverted people have trouble with socializing and this is probably true in relationships too. All I can say is to start things yourself and she will most likely be willing to answer. Other than that, try giving it some time. Hopefully she will open up more to you over time.
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