Now, the situation is that I just got and accepted a good job offer in his state, not far from where he lives. We both are in better places; he's home from deployment, and things are better for me too. He doesn't know anything about my new job yet. A few months ago, he would have been absolutely thrilled if I told him I was moving near him (I live in AZ and he lives in AK). In fact, I believe that me not wanting to close the distance was one of the reasons he felt he had to end the relationship. But since we are no longer in a relationship, now his feelings about it could go either way. The main reason I chose to apply for jobs in AK was to give him and I another chance together, but I want this job even on it's own, as it will be good for me and quite and adventure.
I was thinking I'd wait a week or two until I got established up there before I told him I was in his area, and hopefully from there we'd meet up. But would it be better if I told him about my job and relocation before I get there? (I only have a week before I go!) Would it make a guy feel angry somehow if his ex got a job close to him and didn't tell him about it beforehand? Tell me what you think, it would be great to hear guy's thoughts on this.
- Tell your ex boyfriend before you go! Don't surprise him!
- Wait until the time seems right, after you get settled in, before you tell your ex boyfriend.
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It sounds like a bad idea to wait. If you want to try again with him then you don't want it to appear you keeping secrets. That is never a good way to start anything.