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You can never know his reasons. No matter what he says. The question is "why does it matter so much to you?"
It's clear that he's unstable and immature. There's nothing to be done about that.
Don't waste time trying to determine if you've been wasting time with him or not. The good times you had were real because you had fun and felt loved, I'm assuming. Those memories are not based on what his intentions were... they are based on how you felt when they happened. Don't spend time going back to relive and re-evaluate the meaning behind every moment of intimacy and fun.
It's called mental masterbation, and it's harmful.
All you should be thinking about NOW is NOW. Make yourself a priority. Take care of yourself now. Remind yourself that you're not a measure of what other people think, or what ex-boyfriends did or said. You know who you are and how awesome you are. That's all that matters. Don't seek approval and don't be needy.
You're awesome. That's all that matters now.
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