I miss my ex. My abusive piece of shit ex, I miss him. He screwed me over and I can't believe I miss him! Was fine few months and now for the past few days I started thinking romantically about him. WTF? I guess I remember our good old days and how he used to be the best... I miss that person. Not this asshole. But it's hard to separate those two. I can't seem to let go of who he used to be...
Please tell me this is normal? Been 3 months since he dumped me, and we were together for 3 years.
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Of course it can be normal. At least you had the sense to get away and recognize him for what he is; which is a pos abusive asshole.
You had feelings for him, and they don't always just go away. Also, once the trauma of getting out of a bad relationship wears off, you go through a phase of remembering the good things about that person and good times you had with him. That's not love, but it's lust. Not just in the sexual sense, either, but you're pining for a superficial aspect that makes you desire that person, while forgetting the major reasons why you split from him.
It's okay to feel the way you do. You're human and gave your heart to someone who shit on it. As long as you always realize how dangerous and destructive to you he was mentally and physically, and know to stay away from him, then you'll be fine.
Don't hate yourself for missing the good intimate times and when he was nice. Process them like you have the rest and step outside of yourself as an objective bystander to observe the feelings without acting out on them via impulse, if that makes sense.
Good luck and hang in there, you'll be fine.1