Please tell me this is normal? Been 3 months since he dumped me, and we were together for 3 years.
Most Helpful Guy
Of course it can be normal. At least you had the sense to get away and recognize him for what he is; which is a pos abusive asshole.
You had feelings for him, and they don't always just go away. Also, once the trauma of getting out of a bad relationship wears off, you go through a phase of remembering the good things about that person and good times you had with him. That's not love, but it's lust. Not just in the sexual sense, either, but you're pining for a superficial aspect that makes you desire that person, while forgetting the major reasons why you split from him.
It's okay to feel the way you do. You're human and gave your heart to someone who shit on it. As long as you always realize how dangerous and destructive to you he was mentally and physically, and know to stay away from him, then you'll be fine.
Don't hate yourself for missing the good intimate times and when he was nice. Process them like you have the rest and step outside of yourself as an objective bystander to observe the feelings without acting out on them via impulse, if that makes sense.
Good luck and hang in there, you'll be fine.1
Most Helpful Girl
You were so used to being with him that you don't know how to feel. You were with him for so long and even though he is an "abusive piece of shit" doesn't mean anything. You had went through so much stuff with him and he knows so much about you and visa versa. It is completely normal and all you can do is try not to think of it. But whatever you do DO NOT GO BACK TO HIM! If he was abusive it isn't good for you and you deserve better. Good Luck Girly!!0