We have been together for 5 years. I love him dearly as a friend and person but im not in love with him anymore and im not happy and i met someone i have some strong feelings for. I am also engaged to this guy and i dont want to hurt him because i know he loves me a lot and he wants to spend his life with me.. i know if we split he won't have anything to do with me anymore and that scares me because i still need him in my life. Im at a loss here. Do i stay and never be in love or do i leave and lose my best friend? Anyone want to share their long term break up stories? Im torn and hurting.
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It hasn't even been 7 years yet here, dear, and already I am seeing and sensing the Seven year Itch.
The grass isn't always greener on the other side of the fence, as they say, and I believe you just may be in this Relationship rut right now, where you got cold feet and are finding comfort with another quack at the moment because it's a fresh newbie and you feel you are wearing out your welcome with someone whom you have been with for...5 years here, dear.
Test of time and perhaps taking a Break, don't Break up. You need to find out if what your feeling for your so-called soul mate is brotherly love and all you really 'Need... Is his friendship forever.
Tell him you are going through a few things right now and you need time to think. Take the upper hand with this stand or tell him you may be forced to postpone the wedding right now, you have to sort out things.
Sometimes with some space, you realize just what you are Missing. And if you feel it would be a mistake to walk down the aisle, then it's a Loss you are just going to have to accept and take and that Maybe... It really wasn't meant to be in God's eyes.
Good luck. xx0