So the girl in question I've known for 4 years. We met in high school and we always had this crush on each other but we were both shy so nothing happened. We were known as the couple that never was. I had to move away after 2 years to Germany but we stayed in touch, texting every for a couple of days every 3 or 4 months. After being away from her, she found another guy but it was a weird relationship.
In February we get back in touch and we get closer than we've ever been befrore. We texted every day and every night, and she tells me that she's coming here for a gap year in July. I'm ecstatic. We started flirting like we used to and after a few weeks I break and tell her I'm in love with her. She says, It only took you 4 years to say it.
So we start a long distance relationship and we always talked about a future together and that we were always meant to be and now is the time when we can finally be together. Everything was falling in place perfectly. She even suggested we get promise rings. She is the love of my life and I want to marry this girl.
One night she starts to cry over a promise I made her that reminder her ex. She apologizes many times and I tell her it’s okay but after a week she was never over it and said that she isn’t ready for a relationship, but when she is she definitely wants it to be with me. She asks for some time and after about 2 weeks she contacts me again.
We still stay in touch but not as much and she seems more distant, sometimes just ignoring me but she texts me a few hours later. I tried the "no contact" twice but she always texts me back after 2 or 3 days to see if I'm okay, which makes me think she hasn't given up yet. I'm seeing her again for the first time since I left 2 years ago in about a month. What are some things I should avoid doing, and what should I do to make her feel more comfortable with me? I want to show her the new me in real life, not through Skype or text, and I want to show her that I'm not the shy guy I was 2 years ago. We're meeting in this town in germany that I've only been to once so I kind of just want us to meet up and just hang out without a plan and get lost together and start over.
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She obviously has feelings for you, so of course there's a chance! :) I think she's just not ready for a relationship for some reason. I don't know what's going through her mind, though, but she's being honest with you at least.
I think you should show her that guy you want to show her. Make those days be the best and make her want to repeat. Have attitude, but don't pressure her. That way she'll be comfortable with you. I wish you both good luck!0
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