I have came to the conclusion that my ex is a full blown narcissist. The only thing I wish is that I would have done some research into his personality years ago way before I had a child with him. The thing I cannot comprehend about narcissist is that although my ex broke up with me, he treats me as if I have done something to him. We share a child together, so we see each other but he acts like I don't exist. In April is when he started to hoover and try to be nice, but I was not buying it and did not accept him back into my life. Then in mid June is when I found out that he got married.
We were together for 4 years and he did not know this person very long at all and married her. He never and I mean NEVER told me and still has not acknowledged that he is married. The saddest part is that when my 4 yr old comes back from his dad's house he clings to me. It's also extremely sad because the new person does not take care of my son. My ex has to send him with his mom.
When my 4 yr old returns he repeats arguements that I assume dad is having with the new wife. I hear the word stupid B*tch as well as I am sick and tired of being used by you. It's really are horrible situation. Why is he treating me like I have wronged him? I just got tired of the lying and after this 3rd breakup I decided he was no longer worth running back to.
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I have dated a narcissist before. One thing you learn is that they will never admit to you or themselves they are wrong!
No matter how obvious it is to everyone else they will never ever accept it and go so far as distorting and repressing memories to conform with the new version of facts they are willing to accept, it's sickening. Even if you sit with them and try and explain their behaviour to them, they will lie, manipulate and intimidate you until you give in.
You are only a source of supply to be used up and discarded. It will always be about them and it will always be your fault. Do you homework on them. Especially with your child in the picture. The children of a narcissist aren't ever given the love and attention they deserve and it can stunt their emotional progression.
Be grateful he has moved on. Narcissists are parasites and leave you in a thousand little pieces before they leave. They don't have a consciousness in the way emotionally balanced people do. They can't put themselves in your position, because it's only ever about them.2