Years ago I developed feelings for a girl while she was still in a relationship. I don't know why she developed some feelings for me too.
More recently, a common friend told me that since she broke up with her boyfriend, I could ask her - this was her speaking of ccourse. I do have feelings for her but I didn't admit it, I said I merely care for her and hope she's doing well, and that she should ideally be with her boyfriend (she's known him for 3 years before meeting me). I lied because I don't know if it is morally right.
I think she was given that message and she got mad at me and didn't want to be in touch as friends or anything.
What would a good man do in this situation if she contacts me again? Marcus Aurelius said that if we are to choose between what makes us happy and what is morally correct, we should choose the latter.
But I also think while we can choose that, it is wrong to make others unhappy through our decisions on morality - especially a girl you care for. So should I reciprocate her feelings despite it having started as an affair? I swear I will never hurt anyone again.
Most Helpful Girl
Firstly well of course she is mad. She is probably hurt.
Seondly I don't really understand why it's morally incorrect. She is not in a relationship anymore. What's the problem? She likes you, You like her. She is not just going to go back with her ex-boyfriend because you said no.
Lastly get over it. You can't make everyone happy.
And now call her and tell her you like her and that you lied because you wanted to do something "morally correct".
Good luck, idiot :-)1
Most Helpful Guy
Another Marcus Aurelius fan - bravo, sir! You're uncommon among the young.
But back to business. You need to consider her, too. She's her own person, too, capable of making choices. If she's single and interested in you, and you like her, why not try it out? We can't control how things start - only how things end.0