Years ago I developed feelings for a girl while she was still in a relationship. I don't know why she developed some feelings for me too.
More recently, a common friend told me that since she broke up with her boyfriend, I could ask her - this was her speaking of ccourse. I do have feelings for her but I didn't admit it, I said I merely care for her and hope she's doing well, and that she should ideally be with her boyfriend (she's known him for 3 years before meeting me). I lied because I don't know if it is morally right.
I think she was given that message and she got mad at me and didn't want to be in touch as friends or anything.
What would a good man do in this situation if she contacts me again? Marcus Aurelius said that if we are to choose between what makes us happy and what is morally correct, we should choose the latter.
But I also think while we can choose that, it is wrong to make others unhappy through our decisions on morality - especially a girl you care for. So should I reciprocate her feelings despite it having started as an affair? I swear I will never hurt anyone again.
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Reach out and set both of your hearts free. If she contacts you again I can only suggest that you respond. Be true to you. Be true to her. And get to the bottom of this. If you do the latter it'll only eat you up inside forever. Tell her you love her, as this seems to be your biggest regret!!!0