Ten months ago my ex broke up with me out of the blue - by text. It was a bad break up, especially for me: not only I had to recover from being lied to and being dumped by the guy that I thought was the love of my life (he immediately started to see someone he met before breaking up with me... most likely there was some overlapping), but also because of the break up I lost my job and had to move. It was a pretty dark winter for me. I have been no contact for months now, and did not reply when he attempted to reach some weeks ago (with an excuse, I believe). I feel better now and slowly moving on.
Today I found a memory card of his among my stuff, there are some personal family photos in it. I know he is very attached to memorabilia... I feel he does not deserve any kind gesture for what he made me go through. But I also feel so bad for having something that probably has sentimental value for him. I don't know... I just feel it's right to "do to others as you would have them do to you." I did not change my mind about reconciliating, even only as "friends" - he insisted on being friends (!!!) when he broke up with me.
So my question is... should I return them? If so, how can I make sure he does not see this as an attempt to get in touch with him? I really don't want to talk - there is nothing to say, really. Especially because I belive he is still happy with the person he dumped me for.
Most Helpful Guy
As much as it pains me to say so, I probably would return it. It's not doing you any good. Who knows, maybe in the future that single gesture will change his attitude? I'm not saying you should get back with him, but it takes a lot to be the bigger person sometimes.2THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
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Most Helpful Girl
Personally, I think the best thing to do would be tomail it to him. There's no contact between the two of you or any other party associated with him. There's no stress beforehand or re-emergence of old memories, feelings and emotions. It's quick, easy and painless.2THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE