I've known my guy for seven years on and off. This time was the first time we really dated seriously and I just ended it because I can't handle it anymore. He drinks a lot, which I knew from the beginning. But he disappears for days. I know he's not cheating on me or anything like that. But it's still too much. I'm always worried about him. Where he is, who he is with. He has a lot of negative influences in his life who like to spend his money. He's an amazing man and I would love to have a future with him, but not like this. Anyways, have you ever dated an alcoholic and/or drug addict?
- Yes I have.Vote A
- No I have not.Vote B
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Addicts are very hard to love and deal with. They are very selfish people and act on impulse. But it doesn't mean that admiss all the chaos they don't love you. Many hate themselves. They don't feel worthy. My current boyfriend and I are both recovering addicts. It can be very stressful. You have to decide how much you are willing to give to this person and stick to your boundaries. And always remember that you cannot under any circumstances help them if they aren't willing to help themselves. Many addicts have underlying mood disorders such as anxiety, depression, bi polar etcetera that they aren't coping with correctly and self medicating. So even when they get sober it opens up a whole new mess of problems. To stay sober many have to seek treatment with those as well. Addicts can manipulate, they are masters at "woe is me", blame, and guilt. It's hard to find the delicate balance between helping them and enabling. My best advice is to educate yourself the best you can. There are countless support groups such as alanon to provide you with insight and coping skills. I hope this helps and good luck0