I've known my guy for seven years on and off. This time was the first time we really dated seriously and I just ended it because I can't handle it anymore. He drinks a lot, which I knew from the beginning. But he disappears for days. I know he's not cheating on me or anything like that. But it's still too much. I'm always worried about him. Where he is, who he is with. He has a lot of negative influences in his life who like to spend his money. He's an amazing man and I would love to have a future with him, but not like this. Anyways, have you ever dated an alcoholic and/or drug addict?
- Yes I have.Vote A
- No I have not.Vote B
Most Helpful Guy
No, but I'm a bartender. I've seen it plenty of times. I know exactly what you're talking about. But if they don't want to get help, there isn't much that can be done. It's sad to see, though.0
Most Helpful Girl
I have had to deal with a Raw 'Deal' of Coping with a person and persons in my life and where it was either drinking or drugs...
It's hard to be in Any relationship with someone like this. You don't have a 'Future with him' as long as they refuse to get help. And the longer you stay, the more you Enable them to bring you down with them, which only ends up going down a badly beaten path and ending up to be a War of the Roses.
All you can do, aside from Not to Continue picking up the problem pieces, is suggest getting him help. If he refuses, then you need to walk away and give him his walking papers and tell him to call you one day when he decides that you are Worth... Getting help for as well as himself.
For now, focus on you and try not to Think About... Negative anything in his life.
Good luck. xx0