There's someone I'm interested in that was divorced around two years ago. He's 29 and he hasn't been in a relationship since then. He's dated but never committed. I just want to understand how it affects men so that I'm better able to relate to him and understand his behavior and how he now approaches dating and relationships. (His wife initiated the divorce after a year, I don't know if that helps).
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I'm guessing his life went in one of two directions. Either he took it very hard, lost interest in everything and everyone, felt like he didn't deserve love, stopped taking care of himself and gained weight because of all that, or he accepted the divorce and thinks of it as a chance to find a woman better-suited for him. If this is the case, he's likely taking very good care of himself physically and mentally but isn't emotionally ready for a relationship yet, which sounds more like guy you described.
Divorce is difficult on everyone, but I think it can be harder on guys because they usually don't get the chance to open up about it to their friends. Think about how your female friends would react if you got a divorce - they'd have you over for sleepovers, bring you wine and pints of ice cream, and let you cry and rant to them. They'd help you get your feelings out so you could eventually move on, right? Most guys aren't like this when it comes to sharing relationship issues with their buds. They keep everything bottled up and typically don't let on how hurt they really are. So I'd guess the guy you like is now going to be very cautious about getting serious with a woman; he probably feels that he needs to know her really well before even thinking that things could get serious.0
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