I have been married for 4yrs, dated for 4.5 years.. Lived together for 7yrs. When we first met we were friends but I was going through a divorce with my husband at the time.. So I know I needed comfort, love, and attention... Which my current husband, friend at the time gave me.. We soon started dating and things were getting serious. Then I had to transfer to a diff state for work. And he proposed and followed me there; quit his job and everything... All my close friends say I will never find anyone sweeter than him... And yes, I agree.. Here's the BUT.. He is more like a girl than I am.. I feel like I am the guy in the relationship. I knew this from before getting married but it has actually gotten worse after we moved. He doesn't have any friends... I can't live without friends. One time he said as long as you're here with me I don't need friends.. He doesn't get mad when I come home late hanging out with friends but he sometimes ignores me... Or if I drank a lot w/ my friends on a Friday , on Saturday he makes me drink a lot w/ him at home. When I said I don't feel like drinking tonight then he says "you can drink w/ your friends but not w/ me?" Sex is also very bad... I was usually the initiator and I got tired of always being the one so I stopped then we can go for 3 to 4 months w/o sex.. We have no kids.. On top of this I decided to quit my job and move to another country. I asked if he wanted to come but he said he needed time to think about it. So now I'm here living at home w/ mom & sibling w/o my husband. I seriously don't think this is working but I think my husband thinks everything is ok. I know he might be the sweetest person and would never get mad but he never makes any decisions. While married we moved 4 times in the same city but all 4 times I was the one that made all the decisions... Is this over?
He planned the first vacation ever a month after that... We went to a pretty exotic island but of course no sex...
Most Helpful Guy
Lol, sounds like you do not know the first thing about relationships.0
Most Helpful Girl
I am seeing here, dear, a Full circle problem pattern that will only get worse, will never get better and just keep going down a badly beaten path of War of the Roses.
He is this turn off to you, there is no chemistry, and now 'w/o my husband' who 'Said he needed time to think about it,' you Need to do some serious soul searching of just how long you can go through this regular redrick, sweetie.
Tell hubby Nothing is 'Ok,' and you Seriously Believe... You have made some decisions.
Good luck. xx0