WHY is my ex doing with his new girlfriend (he dumped me for her after 2 years together) *everything* I begged him to do together - and he never, ever found the time or money to? Like traveling, going out at night to dance, going to the beach, socialize with friends... he even bought a tablet that he always refused to buy despite my recommendations! I just don't get it. And it hurts BIG TIME since this was the main cause of resentment from my part. I tried to make him understand how important it was for me, but he would not understand. He said he loved me, and I thought he was sincere... but I had the feeling I was not a priority for him. He had time, but he devoted it almost exclusively to his hobbies (he "could not live" w/o them!) and his family (I loved spending time with them, but not all the time!). And he spent money left and right, but a weekend out of town was "too exensive".
HOW can someone change so much and so soon? How can he suddenly have time and money for all this? I belive he does not know I am aware of what he is up to (although he could guess, since we have common friends) so I don't think this is a way to get back at me. Is he maybe doing this to prove himself that he is not the cause of our break up? It was (is!) very, very painful for me and I got terribly depressed. He may feel guilty for what he made me go through... he tried to contact me some time ago - I think he just wanted to see how I am doing and ease his guilt. But I refused to talk/email/text him ever since the break up, full no contact. No point.
I am really sad for what he is doing. I sincerely loved him.
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I went through this. After 3 1/2 years being with my ex he cheated on me nd ended up staying with that girl. I did everything for him and he never did one thing for me!! After that he did everything for this girl!! After 3 months of them dating he broke it off and tried coming back to me after he realized what he lost. As much as I wanted too be with him, I let him go. Now he's still single trying to be with me. Some guys are very stupid.. They do some stuff to purposely fuck with ur mind. He probably thinks exactly what ur thinking. Like "hey I've never don't this for my ex, if I do this for my new one she'll get jealous" even if he's the one that left u, they'll still try to make u jealous. They think they could move on but we can't. They always come back. U watch nd wait1