It's been a month and a half of no contact - would it be wrong to ask what went wrong in the relationship.
My break up was highly emotional. I mean he listed some reasons, but I think he wasn't thinking and we were both in the moment and acting without logic.
I mean would it be wrong to call and state how I feel.
Say something like...
"hey I no we haven't talked in a long time. I'm not sure what happened to us. I just felt like I got answers that made sense, but I just wanted to make sure I knew the reasons why we ended it. I know I never got to speak about it under rational terms. I was highly emotional, and I know I wasn't thinking with my head, but was overwhelmed and over emotional. I think I just need an explanation.
He tell me what went wrong. I will say thank you for letting me know that.
Ill say I'm truly sorry we never worked out. I'm glad I got to spend time with you while I did. You were a good friend, and I'm glad I got to share a lot of great memories with you. It was fun while it lasted. I know you'll be fine without me, as I will be fine without you. I wish you the best in life, and I hope the coast guard brings you everything you had hoped for. I'm sorry we didn't work out. I just wanted to say good bye one last time for good. I won't contact you anymore.
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Wow your situation sounds like mine exactly. You still love him, want to tell him how you've changed and how it will work. Don't contact him. If he broke up with you, let him come to you. No emails, no texts. Once you start, it will not be as easy as you think to stop. You think you won't contact him anymore, but if he says anything at all he'll say something that gives you hope and it does not mean that he wants you back. Or him saying anything will make you think he will want to give you answers, even if he says he doesn't want to talk. You mostly likely will not get the answers you are looking for. In the back of your mind the only reason you want to talk to him is to see if there is any chance that you guys will work out. A break up is for a reason, but a lot of the time it doesn't make sense. There is no explanation that will make it ok. There are no right answers that please both people. He does not want to talk to you cause he does not to work things out. He feels guilty and while you mean well he will just run farther. As much as it hurts, both of you need space. I had a really emotional break up as well. He broke up with me by screaming a bunch of hurtful things in my face and refusing to talk to me about it the next day. We didn't speak for 3 weeks, then ran into each other at a party, I asked to talk to him for the same reason as you I wanted answers. All I got were general words, I can't handle it, I'm done etc. We've been back and forth for the past few weeks, I was having a hard time letting go. When I finally said I wanted to say goodbye, and let go, we planned on hanging out for the last time, and he completely is ignoring me now. Like we made plans for a certain day and everything. He never texts me back. I want answers to a million questions. I feel like I deserve that after how he has treated me. But he's doing what he wants to make it easier for him. All I want is a final goodbye too. But I'm not getting it, and believe me I've tried. It's not anything you can do, it's his fault. You have to find a way to get over it without him. I can't really answer how because I'm trying to find that same thing right now : /0