I'm with a perfect guy and I can't stop dwelling on my abusive ex. We broke up 8 months ago, I'm very happy with my new guy, but I don't feel the level of passion with him that I had with my ex, which was very special to me. There is very little passion in my new relationship and it makes me miss my ex despite how terrible he was because he was extremely passionate. This happens about once a month.
I don't know how to fix it or what's wrong. I feel that maybe my head is fucked up because of how bad he was to me, but I know that the passion was real and important to me in a relationship. My new guy is amazing, I love him, but I don't think he has that side to him.
What should I do? I feel so lost.
Most Helpful Guy
Passionate relationships will have extreme highs and extreme lows. That's what you're feeling, the extreme highs of your former relationship. However, those extreme lows was not able to create a healthy relationship.
Looks tof me, what you have it a man that knows what you've been through is being that stable person in your life. Be honest with your current man and say you want to do more passionate things together.
Not everyone is the same. You would not want him to compare you to his ex girlfriend. You come with your own set of positives and negatives.0
Most Helpful Girl
If it's once a month it could have something to do with your menstrual cycle. During Ovulation women tend to be more attracted to douches who have high testosterone levels, it's biological so don't worry too much about it. During your ovulation you could ask your boyfriend go be a bit more domineering so you won't miss your ex.1