My boyfriend has always promised he would never break up with me and that he would never hurt me. I went through a tough breakup before him and was extremely hesitant to get into a relationship with him. He begged me for months to date him and I finally fell in love enough that I couldn't say no. We dated about 7 months but I've known him longer because he liked me for so long before. Just out of the blue he broke up with me about 3 weeks ago. He hasn't contacted me since! I've been very good about not contacting him at all and I've been going out with friends and other guys - keeping very busy. But it's hitting me very hard today. How could he say he's so in love with me the day he broke up and not even ever call me again!! How could someone be so cruel. I trusted him because he told me all the time that I could! A couple of his friends have contacted me and I don't understand why. Do you think I'll ever hear from him again? I don't want to get back together with someone who could do that to me, but I just don't understand!
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When someone promises that they will never break up with you, it is a meaningless promise. I can tell somebody how I feel about them now, but I can't promise them that I will feel the same way 5 years from now.
He probably met someone else and that is why he is not hanging on and letting go slowly. That is not what you want to hear but it is probably the truth.
He knows that he screwed up and maintaining contact with you will remind him of that. You will probably never hear from him again.
Don't try to forget this. Think about it and learn your lessons. Decide what you did right and what you did wrong. Ask yourself how to avoid making the same mistakes again. The answer is not to never get involved with someone again; that is an unrealistic solution.
Dating is a long series of relationships with the wrong people, ending with a relationship with the right person.1